“Don’t let this tainted ‘self-love’ trend have you 50 & alone because you walked away from everything that ‘didn’t serve you‘ instead of learning conflict resolution.”
I am not sure of the referenced quote’s originator, but the accuracy is spot on. Self-love has become tainted. Self-care, mental health, boundaries, and therapy have become talking points. All of these things have become the next best thing to do. But growth is not just “something to do.” The process of growth is a real one that requires hard work. Developing and improving who you are is a continuous journey. A journey that needs no introduction because the results will reflect who you are and positively impact what is around you.
About two years ago, I came across this quote from Ne-Yo, “For those people who want to keep following trends, you do that and when the trend goes away so will you.” That also applies to self-care and spirituality. When the trend phases out, so will your loose commitment. You aren’t doing any real work if you are participating in these things simply because of all the latest buzz words floating around, and you don’t want to be left out. It’s shallow and surface scratching at best. You have to be willing to regularly cultivate these areas, gain a greater understanding, and expand your knowledge base.
Don’t fall into the trap and partake in these things for the sake of it. Spiritual alignment, connecting to your Higher Self and being attuned require work beyond the social media hype and consulting with Google to provide a quick and ready-made context.
Therapy isn’t therapeutic when you aren’t honest with yourself, and the professionals paid to help you. Self-love and self-care aren’t helpful when every problem is external, and you are unwilling to take an internal inventory. Implementing boundaries is useless when making exceptions that eliminate your accountability to keep yourself comfortable. Any spiritual practice will have you feeling stuck in a rut if you fail to educate yourself on the root of that particular spiritual practice. For a spiritual practice or a religion to take root, it’s beneficial to have some historical context and understand why it is practiced in the manner it is. Participating in any of these things because of the influence of someone else or something else will not have lasting results.
Self-love, self-care, and choosing a spiritual path that fits you are a lifestyle. These things, when authentic, are embedded in who you are.
Take care and be well.
Intuitive Intuition 