Over a year ago, I shared this to my Instagram, “The problem is, everyone is looking for unconditional love, carrying a bag full of conditions.” Now, I feel compelled to share it again.
I’m sharing again because I now have 433 days in my rearview and a deeper understanding of this quote.
Self-love with conditions: When we place constraints on loving ourselves, it restricts us from fully experiencing love and the goodness it offers. Furthermore, conditional love with ourselves hinders us from fully accepting who we are. As a result, our relationship and view of self become distorted. We forget to fall in love with the imperfections of who we are, leading to being self-critical and harsh with ourselves. We pick up negative patterns and habits that promote the disillusion that we are not worthy or deserving of loving ourselves.
Loving others with conditions: Love should be free-flowing when giving and receiving. Sadly, this is rarely the case. Often, we place restrictions, expectations, and demands on others before we are willing to give love. In addition, or not how we envision it, we reject it. I have realized that love languages force us into conditional love. We have convinced ourselves that we receive love with a dominant love language that then places love in a box. Love is not meant to be contained. Love is given and received in so many creative forms and expressions. When this is ignored, we miss out on so many opportunities for love.
We have to be willing to free ourselves from these conditions. Let go of the expectations and demands. We have to be willing to let love in.
Love challenge: In conclusion, I am challenging myself and anyone who comes across this post to give up that bag full of conditions and to love and receive love unconditionally.
Intuitive Intuition 