In a world driven by social media, sometimes it is necessary to break away. Social media has become an outlet that it was never intended to be. Many people use Facebook, Twitter, and other platforms to push a negative agenda instead of connecting with others in a real and positive way. Some use social media to share negative thoughts, vent and incite drama, bash others, or create an image that does not align with reality. This can be overwhelming and can negatively impact your mental and emotional health if you allow it.
Regularly breaking away from social media can be beneficial. I do so often because my personal growth is essential to me. I have found that it is necessary to conduct a digital detox on this continuous journey of change. It brings so many benefits. It allows me to spend time with my family and friends, stay aligned with my true self, and focused on my goals. My fiancé expressed his desire to achieve the same benefits for us as a couple. For this and various other reasons, he suggested that we complete a digital detox together.
This past September, my fiancé and I decided we would break away from all social media platforms for a minimum of 30 days. It was a September to remember. Being unplugged from everything and everyone served us well. It put a lot into perspective. It’s crazy how much we could get done when we eliminated distractions and social pressures. Breaking away from social media gave us fruitful and tangible results. For me, those results included the following:
- Our dates and outings were more intimate.
- I became more present and alert in our conversations.
- My fiancé was more aware of my body language, emotions, and other non-verbal cues. This allowed him to become more attuned to my wants and needs.
- I was able to stay focused and accomplish the goals I’d set for myself and my family.
- Outside influences on our relationship were limited, allowing me to make decisions independently.
- My emotional, mental, and spiritual connection to my partner improved.
For my fiancé, the results included:
- He gained insight on how much negativity surrounds social media—negative energy he has witnessed and admits to giving.
- He has become more productive.
- He has been able to fully experience our relationship and its milestones.
- Replacing social media with tangible love and personal growth exercises has shown him how much more he can do. The residual effects of being totally social with his loved ones—without the “media”—are evident in the many laughs, conversations, and nighttime kisses we share.
- He has been able to see more clearly who I am as his partner.
- Overall, this break has shown him the realness in himself and in the people in his life.
This experience has taught us many valuable lessons and brought us closer together. It is something that we will continue to do periodically. We appreciated having our moments without the audience of social media. We valued all the goals we accomplished in private. For us, it’s not about putting on a show, sharing every accomplishment, or giving undeserving spectators front row seats to our lives. It’s about real life, creating moments exclusively for us, and building a solid foundation where WE have laid the bricks. It’s also about protecting our peace and letting our union serve as a safe haven because we are intentional about the marriage we are about to enter remaining sacred.
In closing, we would like to say to other couples, don’t try to get to the moon in one step. Getting there takes work, dedication, a real commitment, and pure intentions. This is only one way suggested in helping you achieve that goal.
Intuitive Intuition 