We often talk about and put effort into identifying the red flags in relationships. We become so wrapped up in making sure we pay attention to the red flags that we miss the green flags. What are the green flags? Simply put, the green flags are indicators that it is safe to proceed in a relationship.
Many have never experienced true genuine unconditional love. Although most people aspire to have a healthy relationship, they miss out on the opportunity to have it. Why? The hard reality is, when green flags are present, for many, it is unfamiliar, unrecognizable, and uncomfortable.
A lot of people have adapted to functioning in toxicity and drama. When relationships are missing those unhealthy factors, often, people do not know how to have relationships conducive outside of that. Also, healthy relationships are often questioned. In today’s society, healthy relationships are not the norm. Society has glamorized a “struggle love” — that the ultimate connection withstands cheating, deceit, abuse, neglect, and a slew of other unhealthy boundaries for the sake of “relationship goals” pictures for likes and to be dubbed as looking cute together. After the photo op, the truth of the matter is that the glitz and glam are for social media.
Red flags are necessary to identify. It is a good indicator of what you should not except or settle for in a partner; however, the green flags are equally important. We have to remember just because red flags are not present does not mean that the green flags are. We have to be mindful that the absence of evil is not the same as the presence of good. We have become so accustomed to bad things, that we often mistake that not being cruel equates to benevolence. As a result, we blindly proceed in relationships that we should not. Green flags are necessary. They are the indicator to go, and they hold your partner accountable. They ensure you are getting something out of the relationship.
So now that I have given you all of that, what are green flags you ask? Well, green flags include:
- Healthy and real communication
- Support for personal development and growth
- Boundaries are established
- The promotion of other healthy relationships with family, friends, and children
- Self-accountability
- Selflessness
- Holds spouse accountable
- Both individuals are secure
- Respect
- Spiritual growth is supported
- Safe space for vulnerability
- Encourages individuality and allows the other partner to have an identity separate from the relationship dynamic
Elevate and take inventory of your relationships often. Make sure you are given something of substance that serves as a reliable indicator to go. You owe it to yourself. 😉
Intuitive Intuition 