Have you found that you operate at your best in your singleness? Relationships can serve as a distraction; particularly, when dealing with someone who is not in alignment with you. On the other hand, do you lose a sense of self when single? Are you in another relationship before your current one ends? Is a relationship needed to validate who you are? If the answer is yes, you need something better to do besides love.
Sharing my own experience, one of my personal development goals is to improve my spiritual alignment. Often when in relationships, I tend to get distracted with my seven chakras becoming blocked. This is especially true when I am dealing with an individual that has not acknowledged or begun the work of self-improvement. I’ve dealt with several that have had no interest in elevating their higher self. If I did meet someone interested in self-improvement, it didn’t get past being inquisitive. When I focused on myself, my greatest accomplishments, best opportunities, and advancements manifested. I had to acknowledge that the things and people I was holding onto were the very things that were holding me back.
Cultivating yourself while single is important. Seize the opportunity to become the best version of yourself. Being single is a choice and does not equate to being lonely. Something better may not be rooted in spirituality; however, the things you can do are limitless:
- Yoga.
- Improve your relationships with family and friends.
- Vacation/staycation.
- Enjoy the phases of dating/evaluate all of your options. Be picky; do not lower your standards.
- Focus on your education/career advancements.
- Travel.
- Invest in a hobby.
- Network/put effort into meeting new people.
- Find and cater to yourself.
- Most of all, ENJOY IT!
Allow the universe to align you with your perfect someone. Have trust in divine timing. Embrace your individuality and know that love will come. Prepare yourself to be in a position to give what you want to receive. When you’ve completed your shadow work, you began to attract who and what is in alignment with you. Your healing will manifest partners of better quality; (subconsciously attracting others of a higher caliber). You will be presented with business ventures and career opportunities. You will see an improvement in your finances. Your spiritual, emotional, and mental health will be at its best. When you’re in alignment with your true self, you are telling the universe you are ready to receive an abundance of external blessings.
Do not exchange your singleness for suffering. Being single is better than being in the wrong relationship. There is more to life than having a relationship or being a hopeless romantic. People and love are temporary, but the relationship with yourself is forever. It is the only love that is everlasting. All other love eventually comes to an end (whether someone chooses to walk away or the circle of life takes place).
Ultimately, I’ve realized through my personal growth, my partner must compliment the woman I am. I should not have to compromise who I am and what I want. Neither should you. It became clear that I was bringing so much to the table that I didn’t realize others came empty-handed. Do not make this same mistake. Have the courage to wait for a relationship that is healthy, real, and authentic instead of settling for one that is considered a trauma bond or karmic relationship. You deserve someone that has done his/her shadow work and is ready to add value to you rather than deplete.
Intuitive Intuition 